Exclusively Shared
Damn, I should definitely write more often.
4 days to D-Day. Again. I am definitely getting sick of doing these exams. When someone last asked me about the possibility of MBA I nearly choked up. No way in hell.
(Don’t take me seriously, I am allowed to change my mind)
What’s happened since my last post? I know I have been busy, but can’t quite recall. Maybe they were all meaningless? I am sure that is not so.
Though recently, I realize that I have parted with what I once was. Maybe it’s a good thing, maybe it’s not so good. Does it really matter if it’s good or bad? I keep thinking, maybe it’s the experience that mattered.
I remembered once I had discussed with a friend at which point in a relationship you become exclusive. Traditionally, you go on a few dates, a few drinks, flirt a little, and maybe by the time you make out and hold hands you would think you are maybe exclusive. By the time you share one’s bed, exclusitivity is definite.
But is that really the modern way of “dating”? What if you cut to the chase and get to the sex within the first few dates? After the event, are you exclusive? How can you be exclusive if you don’t really know that much about each other? Why hit the sack then, I hear you cry. Well, for no other reason than it was enjoyable. If you get to know each other after the fact and really quite like each other - well on aggregate that is the same story, no?
Thoughts are welcomed (if anyone else still bothers reading my whinge).
I met you briefly once through a friend (don’t worry, I am girl, so not trying to hit on you via your blog). I honestly love your writing. It’s punchy (see, if *I* was good at writing, I would have come up with a better adjective)
I don’t think sex = exclusivity anymore. I often hear from friends that exclusivity is marked by “the talk”. Personally, I love the classic romanctic courtship e.g. Audrey Hepburn movies where a touch or certain look spoke loud and clear about one’s intentions. Nowadays, values / standards / attitudes to relships can be so markedly different between individuals that one just can’t assume that any action means a certain something to that other person.
The “I met you briefly once” and not knowing any of your details is a bit cryptic, but nonetheless, thanks for your comment.
It’s punchy because I am lazy. =P
Boils down to the question though, how do you know if you’re exclusive? If you’re exclusive, but don’t know it, then you might be doing non-exclusive things that might harm the other person.
Makes me wonder if this has anything to do with intimacy. And I don’t mean intimacy in a physical way, but mentally too. If you are only physically intimate, it is likely that there will be greater temptations to be non-exclusive. If you are physically and mentally intimate, maybe there is less so?
Maybe “The Talk” has its purpose after all. But it’s so… painful. And demanding.
If only there were voice overs in real life. =)
you’re a ho!
-dez
Only as big a ho as I allow myself to be.
And that is pretty big.
Hahaha…
Your blog have a good sense of humor,i guess so do you.